Adam and Ali’s Jewish-Muslim Wedding Celebration at Braxted Park

As we celebrate ten years of marriage equality in the UK, we are proud to have hosted many wonderful same-sex couples here at Braxted Park over the last decade.
We celebrate love in all of its forms, and we are pleased to share with you the story of Jewish-Muslim couple Adam and Ali, who held their multi-faith wedding here last August. In this article, the couple speak with us about their incredibly unique wedding and the road to acceptance that preceded it.

As featured in Attitude Magazine

Essex-based couple Adam and Ali wed at our impressive country house estate, Braxted Park, in the summer of 2023 after six years together. Surrounded by 160 of their closest supporters, the couple incorporated traditions and symbolic elements from each of their cultural backgrounds into their wedding day, with friends and family embracing every word, custom and detail.

However, the journeys that led Adam and Ali to this day have not always been smooth sailing. Despite both families being incredibly supportive of their sons, cultural expectations did affect their formative years, which resulted in questions about acceptance and whether faith and an LGBTQIA+ identity could really coexist.

Fortunately, theirs was a story with a happily ever after and with many lessons learnt along the way. Adam and Ali have chosen to share their tale of personal growth, familial acceptance and cultural union in the hope that it helps inspire others to stay true to themselves and choose love every time.

A modern day love story

In May 2017, the pair swiped right. Adam, a Jewish Financial Services Recruiter from East London, scheduled a date with Ali, a Muslim Local Authorities Manager from Crouch End, and the rest, as they say, is history.

Both from big families, Adam had a fairly religious upbringing, attending a Jewish school and feeling a close connection with his faith. Ali’s family were less religious. However, they were still immersed in Turkish-Palestinian culture thanks to the vibrant local community and a loving group of 30 aunties and uncles who would drop by at all hours to sip tea and gossip.

Adam was the first partner Ali had ever introduced to his family. Despite his loved ones being largely accepting of his sexuality, Ali says that it was never really spoken about.

“My dad knew, but we didn’t need to talk about it. He was very protective of me and would always check in to make sure that I was safe. I came out to mum over a bottle of Bacardi. It took her a long time to get her head around it – I think there was obviously an element of embarrassment for her having a gay son in our community, and she was worried about me.”

In contrast, Adam’s parents hadn’t guessed he was gay, and his mum was initially quite shocked, whereas his dad was supportive right away. “Dad was amazing – he even called in to the radio station LBC on a debate around homosexuality a few weeks later to say that he had a gay son and was proud of me.”

Adam and Ali each had aunties who had married outside of their culture and met resistance from family members, so both were a huge support to them individually and as a couple. In fact, it was after a conversation with his aunt that Adam’s mum came to understand more about his sexuality, which helped set her on the path to acceptance.

As the couple went from strength to strength and bought a house together, both sides of their family could see what a wonderful match they were and began to truly accept their relationship. In May 2022, in Central Park, New York, Adam found a quiet spot by the lake and proposed to Ali. One year later, the couple wed at Braxted Park.

The wedding

Every element of Adam and Ali’s wedding day was personalised, with important traditions being treasured and celebrated. Equally, the grooms were happy to disregard those traditions they didn’t feel matched their personal values with confidence. Their wedding day was an honest reflection of their individuality and an exciting glimpse into what their shared future might look like.

“[Jewish]Traditions were important to me to make it feel like we were being blessed. It wouldn’t have felt like my wedding unless those traditions were there, and Ali was fully supportive.” – Adam.

The day began with copious cups of tea as the couple got ready together, just the two of them. “It would feel strange getting ready without him”, Ali said. The couple wore black and white tuxedos and chose to give away their phones so they could be completely present in the moment.

Once dressed, they went outside for photographs. “We didn’t want loads of breaks in the day, so it made sense for us to have photographs before the ceremony, with just the two of us at the start and then family photos before everyone was seated.”

What followed was a truly unique and inclusive ceremony led by Rabbi Rebecca, who spoke about both cultures. The ceremony included Turkish readings and Hebrew blessings, which were read in Arabic and Hebrew and then translated into English. A beautifully dressed Huppah sanctified both families as they joined beneath it before lighting candles known as the licht bentschen or ‘light-blessing’.

Adam and Ali created their own marriage contract, using elements from the Ketubah and excerpts from Turkish blessings. The personalised contract featured the Hamsa, which represents power, strength and protection in both Jewish and Islamic cultures and is believed to protect against negative energies. The contract was read aloud on the day as their declaration to each other.

After a shorter-than-usual drinks reception that featured rainbow-coloured smoke bombs and a saxophonist, the couple entered the wedding breakfast pavilion to the thunderous, electrifying rhythm of Turkish drums, which saw guests on their feet dancing to the celebratory Arabic music.

The mood was set, and an enchanting evening of energy, togetherness and fun followed.

“My favourite part of the day was seeing everyone mixing and chatting – there was no divide between people or groups. I remember just looking around and taking that in. It was an incredible feeling.” – Adam.

An image of the Jewish-Muslim couple lifted high in the air on chairs as the Horah dance commanded the attention and energy of everyone in the room will likely remain with guests for a long time to come. The Horah was followed by the return of the Turkish drummers, who concluded celebrations with their raucous rendition of Şımarık by Tarkan, better known as the song ‘Kiss Kiss’.